Badou (mechanicalistic) wrote in hysterectomies,
Badou
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Just looking for some information.

Hey y'all.

I'm not here for any seriously serious reasons, like, to get a surgery or anything. I guess my whole reason for being here is plain interest. I have a friend that's female and 21 and naturally transgendered, to the point she goes by a male name (Matt), considers herself male, and is referred to as male by all of her friends. This doesn't bother me or any of his friends, but he wants to get the surgery some day, and I've always thought about it as a general concept more than anything.

Physically I'm quite young (still a teenager, so, probably the youngest here), and I'm biologically female, so I'm not looking into anything like this anytime soon but I always considered it for the fact I feel more male than female, never want kids, hate periods, and generally don't like being in a female body and thing I'd prefer a male one. People even refer me to both genders at times because I just don't care. I can't quite explain it, but yeah, I'm just looking at the possibility some day.

I found this community just because I was curious to see if there was anything about it on LJ, and what do you know, there is. So, here I am.

Basically, I just want to know what it's like; stories, opinions, viewpoints, anything. Does it hurt? What's the surgery like? I read some of the comments about recovery and things, it doesn't seem near as bad as I first thought.

The thought kinda makes me nervous, for reasons I'm sure are understandable, but at the same time it makes sense and there's no way I'm judging anyone for it. So feel free to tell me whatever, I'm here to listen and hopefully learn. 

Edit: oops-- I realize I'm in /kind of/ the wrong place, for trasngender stuff at least. Still, thanks for replying and stuff anyway guys. Ignore my stupidity. =P
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I have several TG friends (both m-to-f and f-to-m) and the most successful transitions I've seen physically have been f-to-m. Still, changing gender f-to-m has some issues, most of all, the surgery. They cannot build male genitalia perfectly, sometimes it never works at all.
However, ALL of my TG friends waited until their mid-20s before making any decision about sexual reassignment surgery. I would recommend finding a psychologist who is comfortable and familiar with TGs and sit down and talk to them about your identity. Don't pick just any one, because many will judge it's a disorder and not an identity issue and will try to treat you for things like depression and such rather than help you to decide what you're most comfortable with.
I was very much a "tom boy" when I was a teen. Even into my 20s. I was not comfortable with my body or my breasts. I hated my period. I hated being smaller, shorter, weaker than the boys I was hanging out with. As I got older, I became more comfortable with being female. I realized that it is part of who I am regardless of whether I like wearing jeans or dresses.
I'm not sure if this is the right forum for your kind of questions, interests. You may want to look for TG f-to-m forums and find out what they went through, how they felt, and whether or not they had hysterectomies.

... and for the record... nobody likes having a period. ;-)
Fair, but I felt I'd give it a go anyway. Thanks for the imput.

And also true. =P
many trans people do see their transsexuality as a medical condition/disorder and not an issue of identity. my identity has always been the same, it's just my body that needed some adjustment.

also, there are many, many men who undergo genital surgery and are completely satisfied with the results. there's a tremendous amount of anti-srs hysteria and misinformation about ftm lower surgery, and i think it's really important to note that the vast majority of men who get srs are thrilled with the results. (i'm not accusing you of any of these things, just throwing that info into the mix.)
I just know what my friends have experienced/told me and what I researched to try and understand what they were going through.
Identity has a lot to do with how you present yourself to the world. If you are male in a woman's body (or visa versa) then it definitely DOES affect your identity. I see what you're saying about "I've always been this person on the inside" but who you are as a transgender DOES affect that person on the inside. How you were raised is based on your gender (whether we like it or not), etc. It all impacts who you are now, your identity (and I'm not saying specifically gender identity). It's all connected. So body and identity are mutually exclusive.
body and identity are not mutually exclusive (or inclusive, for that matter). if that were the case then there wouldn't be females who claim that their formative experiences as women are based on things like menstruation, childbirth etc., or men whose identity is based in part on experiences of their own physicality. much of my gender identity and expression is based on how i inhabit my body - not all of it, but a lot of it. my muscles, my height, my weight, my body hair - all of this shapes my male identity.

i'd caution against making statements about how people are raised, especially now that people are transitioning at younger ages, as young as six. my parents raised me in a remarkably gender-neutral manner and i know many others with similar experiences. i see what (i think) you're trying to say about how others' perceptions can be in important factor in identity formation, but again, that's not always accurate and glosses over the experiences of many transgender (as opposed to "a transgender" - adjective, not noun) and transsexual people who for whatever reasons don't go through the classic trans narrative. i'm a man, first and foremost - legally, physically, hormonally, socially, sexually - that's how i experience the world, how i've been experiencing the world throughout my adult life, and how the world perceives me.

sorry if this is rambling or incoherent, it's been a LONG day... and again, i'm not trying to be a jerk or anything, i'm just trying to offer an alternate perspective.
You could try checking out some of the transgendered comms on LJ.
Yeah, I realize I must have stumbled in the wrong place a bit. Oops. Thanks though.
no worries, it was sort of related.
It's still helpful, even if not entirely in the right way. Thanks for not kicking me out completely =P
I'm afraid that I can't help you at all on the transgendered stuff but as for this part

Does it hurt? What's the surgery like?

it's pretty invasive surgery. At least mine was, I had the old fashioned horizontal abdominal incision & they removed a rather large fibroid with my uterus... Even if you can go for laproscopic surgery they are still removing an organ from your core even if they don't cut through all the abdominal muscles to get it out.

The surgery hurt but honestly... I had more difficulties from the constipation etc. It was like my intestines and what not were sluggish for a few weeks. And forcing myself to be inactive for 4 weeks was a huge challenge for me.

I bounced back really quickly but everyone says that was because I was in pretty good shape going into it.

I understand that. Right now I'm just looking into the surgery and things like that. My bad.

Well, I'm glad it turned out alright. That had to have sucked.
no worries - I hope you find the answers to your questions. :)
Aw, thank you.
I had a laproscopic surgery. It didn't hurt, but it was a little uncomfortable. I had more problems with post surgery complications than anything.
Might I ask why you had to have one?
uterine cancer

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The surgery itself was a breeze. The intense part was going through stages of reckoning. Aside from the obvious needing to work through seeing a gynecologist, something I was extremely uncomfortable with, there was a lot to consider. The big one was coming to terms with being dependent on artificial hormones for the rest of my life. I doubt I would ever land in a situation where I did not have access but I still needed to understand the seriousness of what I was about to undertake. In the end, doubts about getting access to obgyn services as a transitioned male, as well as the uncertainty of the effects of testosterone on female organs were much more frightening than the thought of being dependent on a prescription for the rest of my life.
Yeah, I can imagine that would have been a bit nervewracking. Is it better than it seemed now, though?
Yeah I don't question it at all now. I attribute that in part to having taken the time to process it before the fact.
*nods* Fair enough. I guess anything like that would take some getting used to.
There are a couple of boys in here as far as I'm aware so you're not entirely in the wrong place ;) I'd advise asking in transgender though, it's a very friendly place and a good starting point, especially for SOFFAs. You could ask in ftm but it can be quick to drama. Thanks for taking the time to find out more though, that's very good of you.
SOFFA?

Well, I guess posting in both can't hurt, right? ;P Thanks though, for the help and suggestions. Sounds like a good idea. And heh, I always try to do my research.
Whoops, I forgot that's not a term everyone will know. SOFFA = Significant Others, Family, Friends and Allies.

Posting in both certainly won't hurt. I'm always happy to help those who want to educate themselves on Trans stuff, no matter what the reason.
Ah.

Well it's nice of you to help. Thanks again.
I think age has a lot to do with hos hysterectomies impact a body. I'm an FTM and had my hysterectomy at 22, by which point I'd been on T a few years. If you've ever had mono, that's the best way I can describe how I felt when I woke up. I wasn't in that much pain (mild discomfort to be sure but most of it was due to the catheter not the incisions) so much as I was completely out of energy. I slept the better part of 2 weeks and it took another 4 weeks after that to feel like my energy level was mostly back to its regular self.

But keep in mind, I was already on HRT (ergo I did not launch my body into menopause but rather stopped it in its tracks almost completely overnight), much younger than most people are when they have their hysterectomies so my body was in a much better place to heal faster and better.

I do however echo other's recommendation to join ftm and transgender if you haven't already. (I know I'm 3 months late on this thread, I don't check this community often anymore.)